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Should you fight for solo custody of your child?

On Behalf of | Nov 25, 2020 | Child Custody |

When you read articles about celebrity couples fighting over their children, it is easy to think all divorces are like that. It is easy to assume that you need to prepare for a battle for your children’s future.

Child custody is not a winner takes all situation

Few people get complete control of their child to the exclusion of the other parent. Judges usually award parents joint legal custody of the children. That means both parents share responsibility for making decisions such as which school a child will attend, which religion they follow, or which dentist they use.

Physical custody, on the other hand, refers to where a child lives. Physical custody can be divided 50/50 or one parent may be awarded primary physical custody while the other has visitation.

Many people feel they should fight to have their children live with them 100% of the time. Yet, this may not be the best solution. It is challenging to run a household as a single parent. Splitting duties allows you to catch up on personal projects, social life, and sleep when your child is with the other parent. Plus, studies have long shown that children do best when they have both parents involved in their lives more or less equally. 

Put your child’s best interests first

A judge is required to make decisions based on what is in the child’s best interests. While they also consider your and your spouse’s needs and wishes when deciding on custody, the children are their priority. Your attorney can help you set realistic child custody goals that align with what is best for your child and you.